This is an entry into the Tots100/ WaterWipes Baby Milestones challenge.
My beautiful first-born, baby boy Riley Franklyn Copley-Marshall arrived at 9.25 am on the 28th March 2013 weighing 7lbs 2oz.
I’d survived (yay) a truly traumatic labour full of drugs (thank goodness!) a drip, antibiotics, an episiotomy, Ventose, burst blood vessels, swollen ankles and the most indescribable pain you could imagine. But look what I made…a beautiful baby boy! I still cannot believe to this day that I made that little cheeky monkey running around creating. Words cannot explain how both happy and stressed out he makes me, haha!
Riley was born at 36+2 weeks, breaking my waters a month early and then deciding he wasn’t ready to come out until the following day. We enjoyed the first week in hospital, not! Where Riley spent most of his day under a UV lamp due to being jaundice and I paced and down the room not knowing how to help him. I was told Riley was tongue-tied and needed a piece of his inner mouth cut 🙁 he also endured blood test after blood test to keep checking his bilirubin levels. The first week was without a doubt the hardest week of my life.
Finally we arrived home and I was still overwhelmed, I didn’t know what to expect or even when to expect it. I was a first time Mummy, all I can remember is how I couldn’t take my eyes off Riley, even for a second.
My head was all over the place for quite some time after the birth. Luckily I was a snap happy kind of Mum. Being the organised lady I am, I created folders on a hard drive right from the very beginning. I have a newborn folder, 0-3 months, 3-6 months all the way up to 3 years. Thank goodness I started when I did because I have literally hundreds of thousands of photos and I’m so pleased I captured these moments on camera because I have forgotten so many special times.
So today, not only can I share with you in writing most of Riley’s milestone moments but I can also show you with a photo 🙂
Riley’s first smile
This picture was taken in hospital by myself on the 1st April 2013 at 6.30 am, just 4 days after birth. Whilst I can appreciate this is most probably wind it always takes me back to how I felt at the time. I remember thinking it was Riley’s way of saying it’ll all be over soon and we will be home.
The real first smiles came around June time, along with 8 strawberry marks all over Riley’s body including his head and face (if you wonder what the mark is on Riley’s face)
Riley falling asleep on me
This was pretty much from the word go! I’m sure Riley was a nocturnal baby! But this is one of my favourite pictures of Riley sleeping on me whilst I was on the sofa. I remember thinking all I wanted to do was some cleaning whilst baby is sleeping. I wish now I had instead enjoyed the moment and rested with him.
Riley’s first laugh
August/ September time is when the real belly laughs started and when Riley would understand when we made faces and said peepo. The giraffe was Riley’s favourite toy I named him Gerry.
When Riley met Summer for the first time. Summer was born on 14th May 2014!
(Most precious memories)
First time Riley kisses/ cuddled you…
I have to be honest here. Riley has never given me a kiss and has only started within the last few months giving me his version of a cuddle.
Riley was diagnosed severely autistic on the 17th June 2015. Life changed massively when Riley hit between 15-18 months. Before Riley’s diagnosis I had picked up on his late development however when he started to avoid eye contact, not respond to his name and trip over his own feet was when It really hit hard and I desperately reached out for help for my little boy.
Sleeping through the night has been pretty much non-existent as far back as I can remember. Riley now jumps on his bed like it’s a trampoline laughing his head off about who knows what at….2 am!!!
I remember Riley did at one point say Mum mum, Dad dad and I distinctly remember him saying ‘out’ because he loved being outside. Between 15-18 months when all the changes started Riley not only lost his understanding, socialization amongst a whole lot of other more he also lost his vocabulary as in the limited words he did know basically flew out the window.
Watching Riley interact with his 2-year-old sister is non-existent also. Riley doesn’t play with Summer it’s almost as though she is invisible unless she has something he wants. He will then try to take it from Summer or push her, which is really good because he is acknowledging Summer is there but also bad because then I tell him not to push her etc. It sometimes feels like a loosing battle.
So my point and main purpose of writing this blog for the Tots100/WaterWipes Baby Milestones challenge is that it doesn’t matter how old your baby or child is. In many cases not everyone reaches their milestones at the ‘supposed’ time that they should do. My little boy is 3 and still hasn’t hit some of the milestones a ‘regular’ one year old has. My 2-year-old daughter flew past Riley developmentally a long time ago.
Riley is making small steps of progression every day and not only is it a massive achievement when Riley reaches one of his milestones it’s a whack the ball outta the park-home run kinda feeling! It’s simply amazing and certainly I think that milestones are so much more appreciated when they don’t happen when they are ‘meant to’
Also it goes without saying baby wipes and nappies are most probably my area of expertise with potty training a heck of a long way away!
Hope you enjoyed reading the ‘cut short’ version – ‘The life of Riley’
Mumsy Mum xxx