Let’s be kinder to one another

I got to say. I just love walking to the school doors with two rucksacks, two lunch boxes and two unpredictable toddlers to meet the even more unpredictable parents – NOT! It’s a very peculiar atmosphere to enter into.

There’s the mums that always say hi, just to be polite but otherwise wouldn’t talk to you. The mums that will hold a full-blown conversation with you when no-one else is around. The mums that only say hi back if you make the first move. The mums that smile and look away and then the mums that simply have no facial expressions. What is this all about and please don’t tell me I’m alone here? Or is it just me, haha!!

Everyone is fighting their own battles. I doubt very much everything is kosher even if some may tell you it is! Wouldn’t life but much nicer and easier if we were kinder to one another? A simple ‘hello’ or ‘morning’ can change the outcome of a persons complete day. It’s not difficult to be kind so why do we struggle with this?

Tomorrow is the preschool nativity play and needless to say I’m shitting bricks! Last year Riley (3 & Autistic) spent the whole time walking up and down the church isles whilst all the other children were happily singing and playing their part in the play. I remember feeling really embarrassed and being apologetic for getting in the view of other parents. Thinking back now we did get some sighs and funny looks and I feel tomorrow maybe a repeat event.

Sighs and funny looks because my/ your child is ‘different’ (different meaning not the same as a ‘regular’ child) aren’t helpful and to be honest shows a real lack of intelligence and understanding. Everyone has heard of the word ‘Autism’ but how many people who don’t have a child with autism or know anyone who has autism truly understand what Autism means?!

Teachers, play workers, hospital staff, shop assistants, Joe Bloggs on the street etc. It pains me that 1 in 68 children (1 in 42 boys and 1 in 189 girls) have Autism and yet we are so uneducated on this subject even the people working within the education sector – go figure?!

It doesn’t matter if you’re black, white, yellow, tall, short or thin. Autism can affect anyone! Autism is a lifelong neurological and developmental disability that affects how people perceive the world and interact with others. There is NO cure! Pretty scary stuff, ay!

I’m not an expert! But sometimes I close my eyes and imagine what it would feel like to be in another country where I am surrounded with noise, and shouting from a busy market, different smells, people rushing by on motorbikes and in crowds talking in a foreign language and I begin to feel the panic as the anxiety is building inside me. That’s my way of imagining just a little of what my 3-year-old son is feeling everyday. It must be so horrible for him and scary being so detached from the world around him. Because for him everything is heightened, smells are much more powerful and is noise etc

However the above is just a meer fraction of what it means to live with Autism daily. So next time my son is standing in your way rather than just walking around him, ignoring him. Why not engage with a simply ‘hello’. I dare you. It’s not his fault he has this incurable condition. Nor will it be his fault if he is running up and down the aisle at the Nativity play tomorrow – sorry in advance NOT!

Wouldn’t it be nice to not have to think about things that weren’t a priority in our lives (that was a mouthful!) For example the fact that I dropped my kids off over an hour ago at preschool and instead of me enjoying a nice hot, quiet shower and a sit down. I headed straight upstairs to have a rant on the blog about something which will  make absolutely no difference our lives because this is the world we live in now.

Don’t you think it would be a much nicer world if we could be kinder to one another?

Clare

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