Being a Mum is a non-stop, 24/7 can’t even take a piss in peace kinda job!
I’d like to firstly start off by saying I worked full time from the age of 17/18 till I was 26 when I gave birth to my first born little boy Riley and beautiful Summer came along shortly after! Once my maternity leave had finished I returned back to work part-time (I’m a carer for my son) and I am currently still working part time.
I think back to what it was like when I worked full-time, it was stressful! I hated going into work and once I found out I was pregnant I counted down the days till my maternity leave. I don’t know why I didn’t enjoy work.
- I was working in a store I loved
- I worked alongside a good team & had the best manager (ironically Riley & Summer’s Daddy!)
- I was good at my job
- I only had to work 8 1/2 hours a day with regular breaks and an hours lunch break
- I had 2 days a week off to myself
- I could hold adult conversation
- And although I was ‘working’ there would be even more breaks in between serving customers.
- No-one controlled what time I woke up accept me!
I can’t think why I used to stress and moan about my life when actually I was as free as a bird!
Where do I even embark on life as a Mummy? I personally feel that being a Mum is the best, most rewarding and yet tiring job in the world! You have to learn real quick, specialize in pretty much everything and improvise at the drop of a hat! There is no pressure quite like it!
Newborn – 3 years
- The sleepless nights and non snooze-able wake up call/s
- Non existent routine/s
- The constant sicking/ dribbling on every item of clothing you own
- The never ending washing pile
- Getting used to life with the changes your body has gone through and no longer having to just care for yourself but this tiny life you made and brought into the world also
- Breastfeeding/ bottle feeding (getting to know when to feed)
- Brands & nappies – Where do you start?!
- The famous, out of the blue, at the most inconvenient of times -shite through the vest and right up the back! (Everyone gets to experience at least one of these !)
- Lack in any real social life which is instead replaced with making small talk at parenting groups whom you have nothing in common with accept this new little someone that you are still learning about yourself, awkward!
- Stressing about if you’re ‘doing it right’, the comparing to other babies (which I know you shouldn’t but yet we all do it!)
- Possible post-natal depression and mixed emotions
- Weaning/ new foods?
- The joys and sense of accomplishment when your child, does something new or reaches a milestone – The hard work is starting to pay off!
- Wanting to cry when visiting a friend and noticing the floor isn’t quite to you standards especially when your little one has just started crawling hen feeling bogged under with the ‘I need to wash those clothes and bath baby etc!
- Always feeling alert and ready for anything ‘just in case!’
- Going from the crawling stage to wanting to walk everywhere!
- Whining and tantrums at home and in pubic
- Being told ‘no’ from your offspring
- Refusing to go to bed
- Relaxing is rare unless you have the support that I didn’t?! Therefore a hot bubble bath and chance to unwind and rejuvenate is completely out of the question.
This is all that springs to mind at the moment, I’m sure there is way more points that I haven’t covered! I would love to read some of your thoughts and comments on this.
Oh! I forgot to mention the everyday chores*
*cooking, hoovering, mopping, dusting, polishing, shopping, washing, folding, putting away, changing beads, cleaning the bathroom/s toilet/s, general tidying, shopping, remembering to pay the rent/ bills, maintaining the house and garden (you get the picture)
The list above is surly enough of a shock to the system compared to the ‘regular’ 9-5 pm, 5 days a week? Do I really need to go on?
Riley was 3 on 28/03/16 so I think it’s only fair I stop at the ‘pressures’ of being a Mum here…for no, watch this space!
You have probably all seen the picture below and it is the perfect representation in most cases of what would happen if we simply sat around doing nothing like it is perceived to many.
I think that we all need to give ourselves a massive pat on the back, you’re doing a great job even if we’re not told as much as we’d like to hear.
Please let me know what you think and don’t forget to give me a thumbs up…pretty please 🙂
Mumsy Mum x